All Wrapped Up In Few Words

"Are you a new creature? Then act like it!" - Paul Washer

There's absolutely nothing that can be added or expounded upon with that quote. If we profess Christ while living and acting like devils, it's time to examine ourselves to see whether we are truly in the faith (2 Corinthians 13:5)

Texas Dad Kills Child Molester

Houston Chronicle Story

A Texas father caught a 47 year old man molesting his 4 year old daughter behind a barn. After hearing his daughter scream, the dad ran to her aid, found the molester on top of his daughter, pulled him off then beat him to death. No charges have been filed yet against the father and I'll be shocked if any are.

According to Texas penal Code 9:32 (B), this dad had every right to kill the molester. Even if this penal code didn't exist, Texas would be hard pressed to find a judge and jury to convict this guy.

These days with extreme selfishness rampant, where molestation is one of the most least reported crimes, when caregivers commonly protect the molester rather than the victim for selfish reasons and it's swept under the rug, it's shocking to society to hear about someone immediately protecting their child. That's what I find sad about this story.

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What do you think? Convict the father or dismiss the case?

The Christian And Prozac

The Gospel According To Prozac

Whatever the case may be that a Christian considers taking Prozac, careful thought and a whole lot of prayer need to go into the decision. Though Prozac is wildly successful at treating many mood problems, we  also have to be careful of the "quick fix syndrome" in our society.

It would also be wise to study how others have dealt with severe depression without the aid of a drug, such as Charles Spurgeon and the Prophet Elijah. Suffering is a part of our Christian walk and God uses suffering to teach, mold us and create us into the image of Christ.

Whatever the case may be if you are taking this drug to treat depression, OCD, anxiety, etc., the goal should not be to block the problems we have with Prozac so we can live "happy" and indifferent to the real underlying problems, but to learn how to deal with the underlying problems aided by Prozac so we can eventually handle them without the need of a mood altering drug.

Stress, depression and anxiety all use up serotonin in great quantities that Prozac balances. More importantly than taking medication to alleviate the low levels, one must consider why they are depressed, stressed and anxious to begin with. More often than not, there are many other ways of calming and restoring healthy levels of serotonin. There may just be a gaping, festering wound caused by sin in our lives that we use Prozac to cover up like a band-aid.

Before taking this drug, please consult the Lord and His word first and foremost. Then speak with your Pastor. While it's nice to have a quick fix, in the long run we only do more damage to ourselves.

Recommended Reading: He's At The Door

An Epidemic Of Terrible Times

"But mark this: There will be terrible times in the last days. People will be lovers of themselves, lovers of money, boastful, proud, abusive, disobedient to their parents, ungrateful, unholy, without love, unforgiving, slanderous, without self-control, brutal, not lovers of the good,  treacherous, rash, conceited, lovers of pleasure rather than lovers of God— having a form of godliness but denying its power. Have nothing to do with such people." 2 Timothy 3:1-5

During a visit to my local salon for a trim, I over heard a mother telling the hairdresser that her two daughters loved "Jersey Shore". There were two little girls playing with a basket of toys in the seating area where I was. They couldn't have been more than seven years old. As the two played on their knees with dolls and bickered over them, I realized they were that woman's kids. She confirmed it when she yelled at them from her chair, where she was getting a cut, to stop fighting.

She then went on saying that her girls never missed an episode because they scream if they do and she DVR's all the episodes so they can watch them as much as they want. As they went on to discuss how the hairdresser herself was a huge fan, I looked back at the two little girls playing on the floor and was aghast.

I don't have a TV. My husband removed them from the house when we got married, but I know what Jersey Shore is. They're all over news sites and youtube. I have a feeling, judging by how popular the show is, that she's not the only mom raising her kids on shows like that. What can Jersey Shore possibly teach kids let alone adults? Why in the world would any parent want to expose their kids to such debauchery? Garbage in, garbage out. Because of this diet of trash fed to us our entire lives, and because we're taught "self-esteem" to greater extents than math and a writing, we wonder what is happening to our society.

We wonder why there's so much depression, suicide, drug use and violence among our youth. It's because we are a nation of narcissists and we inundate our brains, and our children's brains, with narcissism. Several studies have been done all over the world and found narcissism is an epidemic throughout the world especially among women and teens.

Shocked by the extent to which mothers are violent towards their own children in this nation? Narcissism: a deep sense of entitlement, overblown estimation of self, extreme selfishness and pride. Researchers found it gained momentum during the 70's. Can we really be shocked about that? People all over the world are not just displaying narcissistic traits, but full blown NPD (Narcissistic Personality Disorder). NPD is extremely dangerous to those around the disordered person.

America is fast becoming The home of the brave narcissist. We are cultivating it in ourselves and our children. NPD has a nasty backlash. Have you ever dealt with someone who has NPD? I have and it's downright horrific. NPD is exactly what Paul described to Timothy about the last days.

Instead of hindering the propensity of narcissism in all people and instilling a sense of right and wrong, we're cultivating it, flooding our kids and ourselves with the lie that we deserve the best, are entitled to whatever we want because we're so special, materialism, self esteem, dangerous pride and all sorts of depravity.

We tell ourselves and our kids that our own happiness is much more important than others. If it makes us feel good then we should be free to do. Raping makes a rapist feel good. Should he be allowed to do it then without consequences? Our extreme selfishness and quest for our own happiness at the expense of others does tragic harm to everyone despite the lie, "I'm not hurting anyone by it." It's changed society as a whole world wide and raised up an epidemic so depraved, so evil, we can only view it correctly in light of end time Biblical prophecy.

For further reading:
Narcissism Epidemic
Parents Partially To Blame
Narcissism On The Rise 

Take the Narcissistic Personality Test

I scored a '5'. What are your scores?

Sexual Abuse - It's Time To Speak

In our country alone, 1 in 3 girls will have been sexually abused in some way by the time they're 18. 1 in 7 boys by the time they're 18. A majority of the abusers are known by the victim. Be paranoid as parents. Most of the time the ones we thought we could trust with our kids are the very ones abusing them.

In our blame shifting society, everyone is quick to diagnose someone with having a disorder to excuse atrocious behavior with a kid. How about they're just evil? How about they knew what they were doing was wrong? Why else would they hide it? We don't hide something we think is right. Why else would they lie about it? Why else would they put the terrible burden on the child when they're the adult and know better? Because they know exactly what they're doing and they know it's W-R-O-N-G. They can stop themselves. They can prevent it. It's not an instinct like breathing. They know exactly what they're doing and many times will groom a child, sometimes for months, to abuse them. The abusers would like everyone to think it's a disorder therefore, the load of his/her responsibility is lightened. It's not an accident. They certainly don't feel bad about it otherwise they'd stop doing it.

Sexual abuse comes in many forms and all are damaging. If you are someone who was sexually abused you need to understand it was not your fault. Nothing you did was your fault. Nothing you did or could ever do provoked anything. There is absolutely nothing specifically wrong with you that you were so heinously treated. It's your abuser who is wrong. It's your abuser that is heinous. You were manipulated, guilt tripped, deceived and threatened because they're evil. No other reason.

Don't let what a monster did to you dictate the rest of your life. Don't let what that evil person did to you determine your future. Since it wasn't your fault, why are you blaming and torturing yourself for it? Stop worrying about what will happen to the abuser (no matter who he/she is), your family, your friends, their family, their friends, etc. Who is bearing the brunt of this monster? You are. Don't let him get away with it. Sexual abuse is one of the most under reported crimes in the country. Don't believe the hype that it's hard to prosecute. It's hard because no one comes forward and turns them in. On average, a sexual predator will have abused over 200 kids by the time they're caught for the first time.

If it's too late for you to tell someone about what evil was done to you, it's not too late to step in and try to stop him/her from abusing other kids. Please do something if you know. They will always offend again.

Awkward Alert

A topic came up recently in the women's group I belong to that was pretty sensitive. What started out in almost a whisper of confusion, shame and embarrassment became not only interesting, but relieving. The woman who brought it up truly felt as if she was the only one. She worried that opening up would end in her being ostracized, yet she carried around a burden of confusion and guilt because she wasn't sure if it was sinful. I figured I'd write about it because I realized there's probably many women who've felt the same way.

I'll try to be as dignified as I possibly can with this, but I may fail miserably. You might find the topic gross/weird or you may laugh and say to yourself "been there, done that girlfriend!" You're more than welcome to sit across the room, talk about me and stick gum in my hair. In any event, it appears to be one of those things that happens, but no one really wants to discuss for fear of being the weird girl with the funny glasses on the play ground.

Whether you breast feed/fed or not is really irrelevant. If you've been pregnant then you know about milk production. It's a miracle, weird, painful and annoying all at once. If our husbands haven't fully discovered this wonder of God by watching us nurse then they've discovered it during intimacy.

Some men are turned off by it, some find it erotic, others appreciate its value to sustain life while others find it nurturing and comforting for them. They feel it's a deep bonding experience with their other half. Breast milk certainly wouldn't be harmful for an adult, but rather healthy. Weird? Creepy? Maybe, but what I've found in my own research is it's pretty common and there's nothing to suggest it's sinful.

There are a couple of places in Scripture that alludes to a husband drinking from his wife. It can be taken literally or figuratively, depending on how we apply it to our spiritual relationship with Christ or physical relationship with our husbands, which ultimately reflects Christ as well.

"Let your fountain be blessed, and rejoice in the wife of your youth, a lovely deer, a graceful doe.
May her breasts satisfy you always; may you ever be intoxicated with her love. Why should you be intoxicated, my son, with a forbidden woman and embrace the bosom of an adulteress?" Proverbs 5:18-20

I believe it's entirely up to the couple. There's some who believe milk should only be used to feed a baby. For a man to also drink from his wife is somehow depriving the baby of food. From my own experience, Darian always gets his fill with plenty left over so a famine is never a problem for me. There's some who find it gross and that's perfectly fine. As long as it's exercised in the confines of lawful marriage then there is no sin involved. To each his own, but more importantly, as Believers, we are family and shouldn't carry around burdens out of fear of being ridiculed. We're here to edify, help, pray, bear with and comfort one another safely and lovingly.

*End awkward moment*

As Numerous As The Stars

When I first started this blog it was for the purpose of posting pictures from a trip to Jordan so friends and family could view them whom didn't have an account on Facebook or Myspace. For some time it was just a personal blog for personal writings of not much of anything important and a way friends and I could be our usual goofy selves. I had no idea it would grow to what it's becoming.

I appreciate those who have taken the time to comment, contact me through email and regularly come to read. Hearing from brothers and sisters in Christ from all over the world has been such a blessing to me and encouraging.

From North and South America to the UK, Europe, Malaysia, and Indonesia. To my sisters from Saudi Arabia, Qatar, Pakistan Nepal, countries I've never even heard of to all over Africa. You are always in my prayers. I and others are always praying God grant you strength, grace, wisdom, meet every need and cause you to grow in love, faith and in knowledge of Christ.

 "I thank my God upon every remembrance of you" Philippians 1:3

In all of you have I found, though having no biological brothers and sisters, that God instead blessed me with spiritual siblings as numerous as the stars. He has blessed you with the same. Though you may look around and see no others who've come to the faith as you have. Though you may feel alone and frightened, you are not alone. We're never alone. We're all in this together to the end with the Bridegroom and you aren't forgotten by God or others who lift you up in prayer before the throne continually. So the next time you feel alone look at the stars above you and consider.

Keep fighting the good fight. Stand firm in the faith. What God began in you He will bring to completion. He is a shield about you and the lifter of your head (Psalm 3:3). Even in all of our struggles, fears, floods, crucibles and pain...

"For I am the LORD, your God, who takes hold of your right hand and says to you, 'Do not fear; I will help you.'" Isaiah 41:13

He will never forget you, never forsake you and is your treasure on earth and in heaven. If God is for you there is no one who can stand against you. (Romans 8:31)

"Can a mother forget the baby at her breast and have no compassion on the child she has borne? Though she may forget, I will not forget you!" Isaiah 49:15

You are loved by our Father and Redeemer and by me as well. May God richly bless you and keep you until He welcomes you home. Merry Christmas beloved of the Lord.

Feeding Sheep Or Amusing Goats?

An evil is in the professed camp of the Lord, so gross in its impudence, that the most shortsighted Christian can hardly fail to notice it. During the past few years this evil has developed at an alarming rate. The devil has seldom done a more clever thing then hinting to the church that part of their mission is to provide entertainment for the people with a view to winning them. From speaking out the Gospel, the Church has gradually toned down her testimony then winked at and excused the frivolities of the day. Then she tolerated them in her borders.

Now she has adopted them under the plea of reaching the masses. My first contention is that providing amusement for the people is no where spoken of in the Scriptures as a function of the church. If it is a Christian work, why did not Christ speak of it? "Go ye into all the world and preach the Gospel to every creature" (Mark 16:15) and provide amusement for those who do not relish the Gospel. No such words are, however, to be found. It did not occur to Him. Where did entertainers come in? The Holy Spirit is silent concerning them.

Were the Prophets persecuted because they amused the people or because they confronted them? The concert has no martyr role. Again, providing amusement is a direct antagonism to the teaching and life of Christ and all His Apostles. What was the attitude of the Apostolic Church to the world? You are the salt of the world not the sugar candy. Something the world will spit out not swallow. Had Jesus introduced more of the bright and pleasant elements to His teaching He would have been more popular. When many of His disciples turned back and no longer followed Him, I do not hear Him say, "Run after these people, Peter! And tell them we will have a different style of service tomorrow. Something short and attractive with little preaching. We will have a pleasant evening for the people. Tell them they will be sure to enjoy it. Be quick, Peter! We must get to the people somehow!"

No, Jesus pitied the sinners, sighed and wept over them, but never sought to amuse them. In vain will the epistles be searched to find any trace of the Gospel of amusement. Their message is, "Therefore, come out from among them and separate yourselves from them. Don't touch their filthy things." Anything approaching amusement is conspicuous by its absence. They had boundless confidence in the Gospel and employed no other weapon.

After Peter and John were locked up for preaching, the church had a prayer meeting, but they did not pray, "Lord grant unto Your servants that, by a wise and discriminating use of innocent recreation, we may show these people how happy we are." No, they did not cease from preaching Christ! They had no time for arranging entertainments! Scattered by persecution, they went everywhere preaching the Gospel. They turned the world upside down. That is the only difference from today's Church.

Lastly, amusement fails to effect the end desired. Let the heavy laden who found peace through the concert not keep silent! Let the drunkard, to whom the dramatic entertainment has been God's link in the chain of their conversion, stand up! There are none to answer. The mission of amusement produces no converts. The need of the hour for today's ministry is earnest spirituality joined with Biblical doctrine, so understood and felt, that it sets men on fire.

Lord, clear the church of all the rot and rubbish the devil has imposed on her and bring us back to Apostolic methods.
- Charles Spurgeon

How To Honor Abusive Parents

This is something I've struggled hard with. My father is a Malignant Narcissist. He was all I had left after losing my brother and mother before I was 12 and my maternal grandmother (who helped take care of me) in 2009.

I don't even speak to him anymore. I love my father despite what he is and has done. I would love nothing more than to have a normal relationship with him and to have him in my life and my unborn son's life, but I also know that's not possible right now unless God intervenes. In order to avoid further dishonoring him and sinning 6 ways to Sunday against him and God, in order to avoid any further emotional and mental abuse, I was forced to cut contact.

God never laid down conditions for honoring parents. Honoring parents is also the only commandment that comes with a promise. He never said "If parents are worthy of honor, then honor them". He simply said "Honor your father and mother". The ramifications of honoring/dishonoring parents are vast and reflects far more than just obeying a commandment. If you are estranged from your parents or parent, you can still honor them despite their sins against us....

1. Don't speak against them in anger or dishonor them in speech to them or to others...

You may struggle with this because your wounds are still very raw. The only option for us is to repent of it and let it go. It's not about them. It's not even about us. It's about God. As Christ didn't slander, gossip or verbally attack His abusers, neither are we to.

2. Don't dwell on it....

"Jesus replied, 'No one who puts his hand to the plow and looks back is fit for service in the kingdom of God.'" Luke 9:62


"Brothers, I do not consider that I have made it my own. But one thing I do: forgetting what lies behind and straining forward to what lies ahead, I press on toward the goal for the prize of the upward call of God in Christ Jesus." Philippians 3:13 

"Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation. The old has passed away; behold, the new has come." 2 Corinthians 5:17 

“Remember not the former things, nor consider the things of old. Behold, I am doing a new thing; now it springs forth, do you not perceive it? I will make a way in the wilderness and rivers in the desert." Isaiah 43:18-19 

This is difficult, but nothing causes more damage to us  and our walk with Christ then when we dwell on past hurts and abuses and hold grudges. If we stay focused on that then we are completely unproductive for God, it ruins our witness, ruins our life and keeps up stuck in a rut. All it does is cause bitter roots to spring up and bitterness breeds hate and unforgiveness. The best way and only way to deal with it, is to let it all go. We can forgive, but we can't forget and God knows that. Cast your cares on the Lord (Psalm 55:22). When you hit a snag or feel yourself sinking into self pity and the pain of past abuse, take it immediately to God. Tell Him about it. Pour your heart out to Him (Psalm 62:8). Only He can bring healing and comfort anyway and He promises to do just that.

3. See it for what it is....SIN...

Any abuse we've come out of, whether mental, emotional, physical or sexual, we have to understand it's all sin. It is the wickedness of sin. As man increased so did sin. We also need to understand that if it were not for our salvation and the restraining grace of God, we would be no different then our abusers. Sin spreads sin. Sin spawns more sin and we eventually live what we've learned apart from God. "There, but for the grace of God, go I." (John Bradford)

4. Do not retaliate or lash out against them...

Do not be overcome by evil, but overcome evil with good. Romans 12:21

Not retaliating can be extremely difficult, but....

"Never pay back evil for evil to anyone. Respect what is right in the sight of all men." Romans 12:17

"Do not take revenge, my friends, but leave room for God's wrath, for it is written: 'It is mine to avenge; I will repay," says the Lord.'" Romans 12:19

"Do not say, 'I will repay evil'; Wait for the LORD, and He will save you." Proverbs 20:22

"Do not say, "Thus I shall do to him as he has done to me; I will render to the man according to his work." Proverbs 24:29

5. Love and pray for them...


"But I tell you: Love your enemies and pray for those who persecute you, Matthew 5:44


“But to you who are listening I say: Love your enemies, do good to those who hate you,  bless those who curse you, pray for those who mistreat you. If someone slaps you on one cheek, turn to them the other also. If someone takes your coat, do not withhold your shirt from them. Give to everyone who asks you, and if anyone takes what belongs to you, do not demand it back. Do to others as you would have them do to you.
 
“If you love those who love you, what credit is that to you? Even sinners love those who love them. And if you do good to those who are good to you, what credit is that to you? Even sinners do that. And if you lend to those from whom you expect repayment, what credit is that to you? Even sinners lend to sinners, expecting to be repaid in full. But love your enemies, do good to them, and lend to them without expecting to get anything back. Then your reward will be great, and you will be children of the Most High, because he is kind to the ungrateful and wicked. Be merciful, just as your Father is merciful." Luke 6:27-36

6. Don't hold it against them....


"But Jesus was saying, 'Father, forgive them; for they do not know what they are doing.' And they cast lots, dividing up His garments among themselves." Luke 23:34


"Then falling on his knees, he cried out with a loud voice, 'Lord, do not hold this sin against them!' Having said this, he fell asleep." Acts 7:60

7. Love them from afar...

Sometimes we just need to love people from afar. If being in contact with them would cause you to sin against God, them and to protect yourself from further abuse, then love them from afar. Pray for them. Fast for them. Hope for them and be rid of all animosity toward them. If you must cut contact then do it, but do it carefully, respectfully and prayerfully.

8. Don't lose hope for them...

God is God. He can do anything. He can change anyone. The Apostle Paul is a good example of this. He was an abuser, terrorist and murderer in every sense of the word, but God was still able to reach him.

9. Understand and appreciate they gave you life. Maybe they didn't do much more than that, but it is enough.

(This post is for adult children of an abuser and not someone who is currently in an abusive home. If that's you then understand that honoring and obeying parents does not mean  allowing them to abuse you. When we're in a situation and we know obeying our parents is disobeying God then we are to obey God and disobey our parents (or any others in authority over us). If you're being abused, then reach out to someone...anyone. Call the police. It's not dishonoring to parents to stop atrocious forms of abuse and it's certainly not your fault you're being abused. Putting an end to it is beneficial for you and also beneficial to the abuser.)

What It Truly Means To Follow Christ

The first time I ever saw this video I was a Muslim. I remember being absolutely blown away by the Preacher and his message. It was the first time I'd ever heard of Paul Washer and ultimately it was this man God used to plow the soil of my heart to be brought to Christ later. "The Shocking Youth Message" that stunned hearers all around the world in its entirety...



Shocking Youth Message - Paul Washer from I'll Be Honest on Vimeo.

Don't Look To Feelings

Not only can feelings be deceitful, but they change so quickly. Basing our salvation or faith on how we feel is not Biblical and can lead to a derailment of our walk. On Christ we stand. Not on feelings.

Mason Vann...


Don't Look to Your Feelings, Look to Christ! - Mason Vann from I'll Be Honest on Vimeo.

My "Christians Calling Other Christians 'Pharisees'" Rant

Ever hear the phrase, "While you're pointing at another person there are three fingers pointing back at you?" Now, with that being said...

If you're someone who goes against the grain in Christianity, if you're someone who doesn't follow popular teachers or popular teachings and find yourself in debates with other professing Christians who do follow them, you'll likely be called a Pharisee. If you haven't yet, you will be. When I say "going against the grain" I mean you stick with what Scripture teaches and not with what's popular or who's popular where Scripture gets spun, twisted and distorted to suit itching ears. Following the herd may be beneficial in the animal kingdom, but it spells death for a professing Christian in a sinful world where Satan has dominion.

Let's call it as it is...calling someone a "Pharisee" is a character assassination attempt to get the opposition to simply shut up and to have others ignore them. Those guilty of using this word as an insult, use it as a means to call another "legalistic". If you study scriptures and start taking a stand against the rampant heresy in modern American Christianity, you are viewed as legalistic.

Without getting in depth on Pharisees, I want to point something out to professing Christians who throw this word around whenever they're faced with opposition to a popular teacher or teaching... The Pharisees were extremely popular in their day. They were highly esteemed by the Jews and their teachings were followed by the masses.

"Woe to you when all men speak well of you, for that is how their fathers treated the false prophets." Luke 6:26

What Jesus taught was not popular and it still isn't. He was not followed by the masses and anytime He was they were looking for materialistic provisions and quickly deserted Him. Only a very small few followed Him after being healed. It was His message that led people to salvation. Everything Christ did was offensive because He pointed out the truth. The truth is never popular. It never has been. The truth got Christ crucified. It got Isaiah sawed in half with a wooden saw. It got Peter's wife crucified while Peter was forced to watch and then he was crucified upside down. It got John the Baptist beheaded. It got Stephen stoned. All of the Apostles except John were murdered for the truth. Most of the Prophets were murdered for the truth...all of them for an unpopular message. The truth has a high cost. If you're following a teacher or message because it's popular you're on very dangerous ground.

The Pharisees totally rejected Christ's message that lined up with everything the Pharisees spent their lives learning and taught yet never came to an understanding of any of it. They should have known it. They should have known Him and they didn't. They had the Scriptures. They had absolutely no excuse, yet they still rejected Him and got their masses of followers to reject Him as well and demand His blood. All the while totally believing they were on the path of godliness and serving God, skipping along happily behind the ever popular Pharisees.

If you don't study your Bible, if you follow someone simply because  they call themselves "Christian" or it makes you "feel good" while calling others "Pharisees"...I know of no other way to put this then to say "STOP IT!" You don't know what you're talking about.

You should know it. You should know Him. You should know and have a relationship with this God of yours! Not any old kind of relationship or whatever suits you and your lifestyle...the one He requires based in and on Scripture. You have the Scriptures and if, still, you don't study for yourself and willingly allow some popular "Christian" teacher with their popular messages to lead you by a hook through the nose then you have no excuse.

He Who Inhabits Eternity

"For thus says the One who is high and lifted up, who inhabits eternity, whose name is Holy: “I dwell in the high and holy place, and also with him who is of a contrite and lowly spirit, to revive the spirit of the lowly, and to revive the heart of the contrite." Isaiah 57:15


One of the greatest things we Christians struggle with in our walk is patience. We live in a culture where everything is almost instantaneous. Anything we want is easily accessible. No matter what time of day it is, we need only drive somewhere, pick up a phone or get on the internet to get what we want when we want. All the information we can stand is at our finger tips.

With God, we grow very impatient as if prayer should be as fast as ordering a Big Mac at a drive thru. Why can't it be? He's almighty isn't He? He can do anything? When God doesn't answer the instant we want Him to we have melt downs. Perseverance and modern culture are like oil and water. It's a foreign concept to us.

We struggle with questions as to why God has allowed certain things in this world to go on? Why has He allowed Satan to run amok for so long? Why does He allow evil to flourish so long? It's hard for us to wrap our heads around. We struggle with giving answers to others. We just don't get it why God takes so long sometimes.

 Actually, He's not taking long. He seems to take long to us because we live and die on a timetable. Our years are few. Even without a fast paced culture we are always aware of time. But God inhabits Eternity.


"For a thousand years in your sight are but as yesterday when it is past, or as a watch in the night." Psalm 90:4


There is no such thing as "time" where He sits enthroned. He doesn't operate as we do with such constraints. There is no yesterday, today, tomorrow or the next 5 minutes. From creation to modern day no time has past at all for Him. It's as if all is laid out before His eyes and is happening in front of Him simultaneously. He talks about time for our sake because we can't comprehend living where time is non-existent and we live on a timetable, but He also puts great emphasis on waiting for Him, trusting Him and patience.  He's fully aware of the constraints of time on us, but God only acts when it pleases Him. He knows the right moment in our limited world to act for maximum impact whether it's answering a prayer or putting an end to evil. He sees the beginning and the end at the same time, but we need patience and trust as He operates for our good in Eternity.

There are prayers we may have persevered in for years we may never see answered, but that doesn't mean they will go unanswered. Since our time frame and His are on extreme opposite ends of the spectrum, understanding God's "timetable" means our trust and confidence in Him is paramount. Though we are a vapor now (James 4:14), we will one day dwell in Eternity with Him. Until then, what few moments we've been given here, with such a constraint, we need to make the most of because time is of the essence for us. We must trust in Him, grow in patience and live with Eternity in mind.

"Live For Eternity"A very short, but amazing message packed into 3 minutes.

He Gave Them Up

I'd like to think God's blessings are still over America and that there is hope for this country, but the truth is I truly believe God has given America up. In speaking about the depravity of man in Romans 1, we get a very clear picture of what drives God to the decision to hand a people over to their sin and depravity, which is a form of judgment. God will sometimes hand a person over to their sin. He uses it as a means to discipline and bring the person back to restoration. (1 Corinthians 5:5)

Handing them over, like what's described in Romans, is entirely different. From Romans 1:21 to Romans 1:28, three times it's declared that He gave them up. Three times signifies the emphasis and finality of it. "He gave them up", the declaration. "He gave them up", the repetition. "He gave them up", the finality of it.

Nothing will cause a house to crumble like abandonment. Even if a house has fallen into disrepair. As long as it's occupied, the progression of rot is significantly slowed. Those living there will still attempt to make some repairs even though minor and use, itself, acts as a preservative. Abandon a place and over a short period of time, it will begin to crumble. Just being without electricity and heat will cause it to rot at a staggering rate.

In Romans, we can see depravity has reached all mankind and it's been getting steadily worse since the fall of man. The difference is in one verse that shows when a people have hit bottom and have forced God to abandon them....

"Even their women exchanged natural sexual relations for unnatural ones." Romans 1:26

Women have always been the last line of defensive morality in a culture. Women are not driven like men are sexually. Even in cultures where men are sexually depraved, women, for the most part, have maintained dignity and morality that was missing around them. Thus, they acted as the salt that preserved a society. As long as the women maintained a certain level of morality, there was hope for the children who would be under the woman's influence. When women have sunk to the same level of depravity in a society there is nothing left to preserve them and it can never be brought back.

Sodom and Gomorrah are prime examples of God giving a society over to their depravity. Homosexual sin wasn't the only problem these cities had. Destruction didn't come on them for homosexual sin. It was, in fact, the end result of insisting on sinful standards and lifestyles, being handed over to their depravity and the last straw that brought divine judgment.

No other sin lays waste and shortens life like that of sexual sins. This is why we're warned in 1 Corinthians 6:18 to flee all sexual immorality. "Flee" is a forceful word used. It means to drop everything and run as hard and fast as one can from it.

"All other sins a man commits are outside his body, but he who sins sexually sins against his own body." 1 Corinthians 6:18

There are sins that do damage to the body such as alcohol and drug addiction, but in the bigger picture, no other sin has caused more damage to an individual and shortened life affecting entire societies like sexual immorality. No other sin directly and immediately impacts the individual and causes instant damage like sexual sin. When God hands people over, as Romans describes, it's finished. He has abandoned the people and left them to the destruction of their own sins. No longer is God restraining them with grace as an act of mercy. In fact, He is now allowing them to fill their cup of wrath every moment they take in another breath.

Just in the US alone, we have frightening statistics...

17% of all women struggle with porn addiction
* 1 of 3 visitors to all adult websites are women
* 9.4 million women access adult websites every month
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That's just the women who admitted to it. The number is much higher. This also doesn't include how we are bombarded constantly by TV, Movies, internet, books, music, schools etc., that promote sexual immorality and send the strong continuous message that "it's ok" and appeals to our sinful natures. All women may not participate in homosexual sins, but society has been forcing its acceptance for decades. Society has forced it in the church and many churches have allowed it in, made excuses for it and exchanged the truth for a lie to feed the sinful nature.

In America alone, homosexuality is celebrated especially between two women and it's forced on our children. The last line of defense has been demolished and God has abandoned America. A country that once had the light (1 Timothy 2:4), but turned against it. There's hope, of course, for the individuals who cling to God and God demonstrates His mercy to the few with the story of Lot, but for the country as a whole, all that's left now is the fearful expectation of judgment (Hebrews 10:26).

Critical Priorities

"As he went along, he saw a man blind from birth.  His disciples asked him, 'Rabbi, who sinned, this man or his parents, that he was born blind?'

'Neither this man nor his parents sinned,' said Jesus, 'but this happened so that the works of God might be displayed in him. As long as it is day, we must do the works of Him who sent Me. Night is coming, when no one can work.  While I am in the world, I am the light of the world.'” John 9:1-5

When the disciples saw the blind man they were only concerned about how he'd gotten that way. They wanted to look back at his past as if it mattered for his present situation and future. They were under the assumption that someone, somewhere sinned, it resulted in the man's blindness and they needed to know about it. Yet, Jesus pointed out the importance lay in the reason for his healing rather than the reason for his blindness in the past. He also pointed out night was coming and they must work while it's day to glorify God. 


Countless Church groups exist to help people explore their pasts, analyze them, come to some understanding of them and utilize them. As if to wrap "life" up into a neat little glow stick that can be carried into their future, shedding light on their path for no other purpose, but their own satisfaction.

Urgency has been lost. We've taken the focus off God, put it on ourselves and taken our eyes off the prize. We're misusing gifts and abilities given by God for God on ourselves. We're wasting what we've been blessed with on ourselves. We're distracted with all sorts of anxieties. Instead of throwing everything off, we further distract ourselves by excessive indulgences with all sorts of amusement, expenditures and pleasures.Christ gave a distinct warning concerning this...


"Be careful, or your hearts will be weighed down with dissipation, drunkenness and the anxieties of life, and that day will close on you unexpectedly like a trap." Luke 21:34

There are numerous warnings in Scripture to keep focused and live our lives with a sense of urgency because not only is Christ's return at hand, but we don't know what hour it will happen.

"Be very careful, then, how you live--not as unwise but as wise, making the most of every opportunity, because the days are evil." Ephesians 5:15-16

We live in evil times and they are getting worse. Our opportunities seem to be dwindling and it falls in line with Scripture and the end days. When we have to stand before Christ, He's not going to be asking about or concerned with how we came to know and understand ourselves. He'll be demanding to know how we came to know and understand Him and how we put that into practice by taking advantage of every opportunity for Him.


"Conduct yourselves with wisdom toward outsiders, making the most of the opportunity." Colossians 4:5

Where we see an opportunity to glorify God and preach the Gospel, it must be done. The more attention and time we waste on us, the more likely it is that His return will slam down on us like a trap and we'll be left with empty hands, wasted tools and incredible shame before Him.

Females Are Beautiful

I woke my husband up early this morning by grabbing his hand and holding it to my belly. "The baby's moving. I can feel it." I said. We both laid there literally holding our breath waiting to feel it again, but didn't. It wasn't like a kick but a strange shifting. The first time it got my attention but I wasn't sure. The second time was unmistakable and so exciting. Hearing and seeing the heartbeat is amazing, but to actually feel that life move inside you is awesome. I'm not showing that much and can still wear my normal clothes comfortably so it makes me forget sometimes that there's a "passenger" as my husband calls it, but feeling it move was a beautiful reminder.

Being pregnant makes me realize just how beautiful being a female is. I love men and appreciate all they're capable of and offer, but I wouldn't want it any other way. Sure we have to deal with so much more physically than men do especially with PMS, carrying a baby and giving birth. We're also more likely to develop chronic pain conditions but there's so many other qualities us females possess that not only attract men to us, but also strengthens the bonding for each other.

Though we are much smaller (bone and muscle wise) than men and far more delicate our bodies cultivate and carry other human beings. We are the bearers of life. Sadly our wombs, at times, may begin as the cradle, but end as the grave, but even in that there is beauty. Our bodies bring forth life, nurture it, protect it, feed it, care for it all on its own apart from mental or emotional involvement. Long before we even know we're carrying a baby, our bodies have already begun taking meticulous care of that baby.

The difference in our body structure from men is beautiful. We are fragile compared to men. Men are bulky, muscular and bigger and they have to be to fulfill the purposes for which they were made but contrast that with females and just physically our roles in humanity are apparent. We are softer, sweeter, gentler, smaller, delicate, curvier truly reflecting the emotional and mental capacity for which we serve. Have you ever watched your man and how he interacts with other males? It's interesting. They can be so rough with each other even in just how they speak, their body language, their interactions. My husband plays soccer and hockey and when I go to his games I can't even watch sometimes. I've played hockey myself, but no where near how men play with each other. They plow into each other, slam, throw, hit, trip, bull doze each other and it's painful to watch at times. They're more ruthless than professionals. Yet when they're alone with us females it's like they're handling a delicate piece of crystal and instantly they soften as well.

We have a powerful, calming presence. In a prison setting around the most dangerous kind of criminals who are combative toward the male guards, if a female is brought in, whether she's another guard, nurse, doctor whatever, they've found that most male prisoners instantly calm down and seem to be comforted and softened just by the female's presence and sound of her voice. I saw a video online recently of a married couple arrested for mutual combat domestic violence. They were separated immediately to go through the booking process. Even though they ended up there for fighting each other and obviously their relationship was disfunctional, the minute they were separated the female completely withered and the male became increasingly agitated by the minute. Once they were put in separate cells he paced back and forth like an animal knowing she was close by but couldn't see her. He couldn't stand not being able to protect her in that environment and she couldn't stand not being able to comfort him. The moment he was allowed to see her and sit next to her to eat they were like peas in a pod and you'd think the most loving couple you ever saw. He was instantly calm and she a happy little camper. Prison isn't the only place though where our presence is so effective. We have the same kind of effect inside the home and even in highly stressful situations.

We're the nurturers. We hold so much of the emotional and mental stimulation that humans need to develop and function stably. That's not to say men don't provide much because they do. Research is clear when a father is missing from a kid's life the impact is profound, but we are what kids run to when they want to be comforted and cared for emotionally. That nurturing aspect of us creates bonds with other females you don't find among males. Females can be fierce competitors with each other, but we also share a common empathy, intuition and emotional bond with each other that lasts a lifetime. As much as we need men, we also need other females. We pick each other up, we comfort each other, encourage one another and strengthen each other like nothing else can.

We are the caregivers. We are the ones humans depend on to care for them from the moment of conception. We wash, dress, feed, protect, comfort and teach little people. Our influence stretches generation after generation. The bond between a mother and her offspring is not just emotional and mental but also spiritual. Women's intuition is a powerful thing that I'm becoming more and more familiar with in myself. When I use to have those moments it came off as just weird. Now I understand it's a part of being female. We can feel things pertaining to those we are connected to even if we don't know what's happening. We know things before they happen. We know things even as they happen despite distance between us and those we love.

We are fierce protectors of our offspring. Animals operate on pure instinct and look at how fiercely they protect their babies. Mess with our offspring and an emotional, mental and physical whirlwind has just been unleashed. Men are no where near as vicious as females can be even in the animal kingdom. I recently saw a mother grizzly bear go after and take on a male grizzly who was 3 times her size simply because he got too close to her cubs. It was sheer suicide for her and he could have easily killed her, but she stood her ground and eventually the male left her alone.

Our role in humanity is significant and males instinctively react like a mama grizzly to protect a female. No matter how influenced by feminism our society may be, men still respond to females as a fierce protector themselves. At one time I was considering going into the military and I asked a Marine recruiter about the chances of me being put in combat. He smiled and explained I'd never be put in combat on purpose, but could possibly find myself in a combat situation depending on the type of job I went into. In that case I'd be dressed like a man and anything feminine about me would be hidden while out in the open. The reason was simple...an entire operation can be blown and lives lost when a female gets hurt or killed on a battlefield. The enemy targets females simply because they know the men will act on instinct and run to the female to protect her not to mention the emotional and mental trauma males experience when they witness a female soldier being killed.

We are beautiful creatures and femininity is our role in humanity. It baffles me when such beautiful creatures want to strip off the qualities that make us so priceless. We have so much to offer and are so valuable just the way we are. Everything we are and everything we've built wouldn't be if we tried to be anything different or shed the purpose for which we are. It doesn't matter what you look like or where you've been, God took great care with us females, creating stunning masterpieces for not only men to appreciate, but to appreciate in ourselves and with each other in the friendships we form and the societies we help build. Being a female is a beautiful thing.

The American Female - Beautiful Diasters

As an American female myself I'm the first to admit American girls can be shallow and will instantly default to materialism if a guy's looks are not on par with American standards...and American standards are pretty high.  Ugly guy or even average? If you have money you're just as hot as Johnny Depp, but you'll be treated like a door mat.

I'm in no way attacking my fellow American females out there so don't take this wrong. I'm attacking the system fed to us since birth. The problem with American girls isn't looks. It's true American females are some of the most beautiful girls in the world. But no matter how beautiful we are...let's face it our attitude and ideas can really suck and that's what can cost us dearly.

If you've been reading here a while then you know I am not an advocate of feminism. I despise feminism. The word "feminism" is completely deceiving itself. Feminism's inception was valuable, but what it's morphed into hasn't only damaged American men, but damaged the American girl and her reputation. We're not viewed as we like to think we are. What we've become in most places are obnoxious, fake, simple minded, gold digging, easy feminists. But there's a lot of irony in this that makes us look a little moronic.

Feminism has raised us females. It's been fed to us our entire lives in every area and every aspect. American females posture in masculinity. We've been taught to. From the moment we even meet a guy we're already asserting ourselves as on par or more dominating than he is. Combined with looks, this can be a poisonous mix for any man who will probably eventually be found sneaking out the backdoor with his suitcases. Men are visual creature and we know this so we use that to our advantage to reel them in. And, like the visual creatures they are, they ignore the masculinity and domination in the beginning, but it always comes back to bite us. This posturing is so foreign to us that we just look mental eventually. It's like trying to wear daddy's boots to school and expecting everyone to envy us and want to be us. They don't fit no matter how cute we are.

In all this posturing, in all this manipulation and show of strength, we're most inclined to go for someone who makes a lot of money/is stable and is respected, feared and dominating to other males. We are going to gauge a male and go for an alpha status. Such as being attracted to the captain of the football team, business owner or head of corporation, bad boys etc. It's just in us to do no matter how much we front or fight it. The money makes him the provider. The domination and respect by other males makes him the protector and guardian. Genetically females instinctively go for the strongest male she has access to for survival purposes and reproduction. Tied to the physical strength is the male that offers the best stability/provisions. As often as we try to dominate the male, which is simply out of selfishness, when men stand up to us we wilt.

So I gotta ask...does this make any sense? Do we not look crazy? Why do us American girls waste so much time putting up this front when everything else we do by instinct shows us for what we really are? This behavior isn't even in our genetic makeup.

We'll sleep around because we think that's all the value we have to men. Or we'll want to sleep around because feminism tells us "if it's ok for a man to do it then it's ok for a woman." But the problem is...it's not ok for men to do it. So why are we selling ourselves so short and cheapening ourselves? Another example is that our stimulation is not based on visuals like men, but women will gather at male strip clubs and act like crazed maniacs not because they're turned on by what they see, but because they think that's how men act in that situation.

Ever hear the "nice guy" complain that he can't get a girl? It's because he's not being the alpha male. It's not that he's nice. "Nice" is valuable. The problem is he's too sensitive which is characteristically a female trait. He's too subservient and frankly a pushover. By nature that's not what we females want.

So in all this what are we competing for? What exactly are we hoping to obtain? What message do we want to send? We may have certain ideas about it, but looking at the message we're sending and what's being received is the exact opposite. I know just with myself when I've used a dominating style the reception has been equivalent to looking a lion in the eyes. It's instinctively taken by the male as a direct challenge and affront to nature and his genetic makeup. But when I'm feminine and true to my female nature it's received quickly and happily. By nature men are attracted to and desire feminine females. There's no way around it.

Of course if you're a feminist you'll hate me for pointing this out, but there's absolutely nothing I wrote that isn't true. Do we want to stay splashing around at the shallow end believing we're the envy of the world when the truth is we're just beautiful disasters? Desired for a moment then brushed off like dandruff off a shoulder. Not attractive.

Secret Garden

I had this on the sidebar once before because I thought it was so sweet but now it's relevant...

A gift lives within me,

I sustain it day by day.

My tiny secret garden,

Flourishes locked away.

No other, but me can feel,

How eagerly Eden blooms.

It needs no sun or watering,

Just the cradle of my womb.

Life is building life,

Valued as a precious stone,

As God carefully fashions

A seed to flesh and bone.

-Anonymous

Loneliness

At some point we all will feel lonely or have to deal with it. Loneliness can be debilitating as it tears down day by day. It can cause us to make bad choices which can lead to a lifetime of paying consequences. Some withdraw completely from people and others will look desperately for a friend. Either way, loneliness, if not handled right, can lead us down a road of deep pain.

Loneliness can be caused from many things, from minor to major. We may feel lonely after moving away from friends and family or if a close friend moves away. We can feel lonely in a crowded room where we don't know anyone. We all deal with this kind of loneliness and it's usually just temporary.

The dangerous kind of loneliness is the type that, despite being in a room full of people you know, you still feel lonely. You may feel like an outcast among friends and family. You may feel no one cares about you or loves you. No one cares what you think or what you have to say. You're uncomfortable going somewhere by yourself because you feel self conscious. Maybe you feel no one pays attention to you or no one likes you. Maybe you've been hurt so much loneliness comes from trusting no one. Loneliness is very real and not something we can just snap out of. It can last anywhere from a few minutes to many years. It ruins lives.

There are a lot of scientific theories why some people live a life of perpetual loneliness. Some think it's a chemical imbalance and can be treated with therapy and drugs. Others think it's diet and exercise and still others think it comes from past abuses. It isn't about just making some friends. We've all heard someone tell us "You need to make a friend". Most people who deal with chronic loneliness have friends and/or close families. Scientists and therapy gurus have a lot of methods to try to break its hold, but in an age where tens of millions, just in this country alone, suffer from severe loneliness daily despite having tried methods, it's obvious the issue is much bigger than science, much deeper than having human companionship and its hold on a person is much stronger.

Loneliness can be broken, but first we need to see it for what it is. Loneliness is being self focused. Loneliness is an obsession with "self". By going to therapy, taking drugs or spending millions on self help material the cycle is never broken in a person. These methods are, in fact, a vicious cycle because they only reinforce the loneliness by keeping the individual self focused.

Take a look at this excerpt from an article concerning major depression among Western societies that loneliness also fits into...

Societies that breed depression, and societies that don't
It is a fact that we all have basic emotional needs that must be met for us to thrive and enjoy life. After the primary human needs for food, water and shelter come commonly shared emotional and physical needs. Without exception we find depressed people are not getting these needs met.
Traditional communities naturally meet many 'basic needs' for emotional support. In the traditional Amish society in the US major depression is almost unknown, as it is in the equally traditional Kaluli tribe of New Guinea. In these societies individual concerns are group concerns and vise-versa. You know that if you have a problem other people will help you and you are expected to help out when others need support. We know we are meant to do these things but it's not a 'built in feature' of modern society in the same way.
These days we are much more 'self-focused'. The idea of considering the wider community to be more important than the self is almost impossible to understand for most people.
Major depression is 4th most disabling condition in the world, and 2nd most in the developed world. As well as the human cost, the burden on society is incredible. Much of the research on this site about effective treatments for depression has been controlled by the US government, in order to try and find the best way to overcome depression. The cost to society is real, and we need to find the best way at beating depression for good.
http://www.clinical-depression.co.uk/dlp/depression-information/major-depression-facts/

Loneliness makes you think "No one loves me. No one cares about me. No one thinks I'm important. No one notices me. No one thinks about me. No one will ever do anything good for me. No one thinks I'm cute/nice/important enough/smart", etc. What's the common denominator in all of this? "Me".

The problem isn't medical or a painful past. The problem is being self centered. We get all wrapped up in ourselves and what we want and what we need. We are only worried about ourselves. This not only does extreme damage to us, but to others as well. We become so self centered and ungrateful, so focused on ourselves that we neglect others and push them off over and over again until ultimately they leave. Instead of seeing it for what it is we turn in on ourselves, reinforce the loneliness in us and say "See! No one loves me. No one cares. No one's concerned for me. I did everything I could..."

Ever heard the term "it's better to give than to receive"? It's true that people who give of themselves, either by volunteer work, involvement in charities or other things, are happier people. They experience far less loneliness and far less depression than those who aren't active in giving of themselves in some way.

Ready to break the cycle? First you have to realize (and this may sound harsh but I've had to face it too) the world does not revolve around you. The truth is if we die today the world will still go on as just another day. You are the only one at the center of your universe. No matter what you've been through there are many more who have been through or are going through far worse than you. No matter what you may not have there are many others who have far less.

Instead of thinking "no one loves me" try asking yourself "who can I show love to"?
Instead of thinking "No one appreciates me" ask yourself "who can I show appreciation to?"
Instead of thinking "No one listens to me" ask yourself "who can I listen to?"
Instead of thinking "I have no friends" ask yourself "who can I be a friend or friendly to?"
Instead of thinking "No one is there for me" ask yourself "Who can I be there for?"

Selfishness is not a virtue. Being self centered is not a good character trait. People notice it and instinctively back away from it. But those that give of themselves despite what they feel or what they may be going through not only profoundly changes us, but it changes those around us. Think of a time when you felt bad or at your worst and someone (maybe a complete stranger) did something for you, something they didn't have to do, but went out of their way for you. Maybe something that seemed so insignificant, but it completely changed your mood and made your situation a little better. Because it changed your mood it had a chain reaction. Now you are reacting to others a little differently, a little nicer, a little more patiently. Now you've effected those people and their mood is a little lighter and better and they in turn do something for someone else.

Those we praise as heroes have always been those who gave the most of themselves and thought of others more. You may not save kids from a burning building today or rescue an old lady from a group of thugs, but you can can make a difference in someone's life today and that always makes a difference in us. You may be the only person today who picks another person up with even just a kind word. Loneliness cannot survive when we reach out to others, but it's more than just coming to a realization of what loneliness is. You have to act on it and the more you do the weaker loneliness becomes.

Women - No Dominion Over Men

In light of the crazy Bible twisting Beth Moore and others bring to us, I began to realize just why the Bible is very clear about women having any kind of dominion over men and asserting that by teaching them. Being in a teaching position is leadership, thus forcing men to submit to her authority (Hebrews 13:17). In these post modern times us girls are taught vigorously to not only compete with men, but to beat them over the head for control.

Women are allowed to teach other women. Women are allowed to teach children and are instructed to teach their own children and wield their influence there. Women have a prominent role in the church and they are to be honored for all the hard work they put in, but they are not to be teachers in the church. It's given to men to teach both men and women. They have the authority by God.

"Let a woman learn in quietness with all subjection. But I permit not a woman to teach, nor to have dominion over a man, but to be in quietness. For Adam was first formed, then Eve; and Adam was not beguiled, but the woman being beguiled hath fallen into transgression:" 1 Tim 2:11-14

It was Eve who had been deceived not Adam. Though Adam freely followed Eve into the fall, he wasn't the one tricked. Eve was the one targeted not Adam. She was weaker and easily duped. In light of a lot of heresy running rampant in the church these days of apostasy, there's no room for gender wars or prideful self assurance.

"But I am afraid that just as Eve was deceived by the serpent’s cunning, your minds may somehow be led astray from your sincere and pure devotion to Christ." 2 Corinthians 11:3

I love everything about being female and would never wish otherwise, but let's face it, us females are emotional creatures. We don't always use our heads. I know some girl is going to read this and get upset because she's been raised on a feminism diet. In any case, we are to obey God even if our sin nature takes offense. One thing that stands out with Beth Moore, Joel Osteen, Priscilla Shier and many others is their constant appeal to emotions. They base entire ministries on the emotions and addressing emotional issues females are highly prone to.

"But mark this: There will be terrible times in the last days.  People will be lovers of themselves, lovers of money, boastful, proud, abusive, disobedient to their parents, ungrateful, unholy,  without love, unforgiving, slanderous, without self-control, brutal, not lovers of the good,  treacherous, rash, conceited, lovers of pleasure rather than lovers of God— having a form of godliness but denying its power. Have nothing to do with such people.  They are the kind who worm their way into homes and gain control over gullible women, who are loaded down with sins and are swayed by all kinds of evil desires,  always learning but never able to come to a knowledge of the truth." 2 Timothy 3:1-8

Paul, writing Timothy, warns him about the end times and what people will be like. Mankind will go from bad to worse being completely self-centered, self absorbed and narcissistic. He ends it with "having nothing to do with such people". Turn away and cut it off. Is he talking about the world? No. We'd have to go live on the moon to have nothing to do with them. He's talking about in the church. Heretics don't announce themselves. They don't introduce themselves as deceivers. They slip in unnoticed.

Then Paul points out that they're the kind of deceivers who worm their way into homes and gain control over gullible women. They strike when the husband is not around because he's not so easily deceived or gullible. He's not as easily moved by emotions. They prey on the weaker of the two who is easily given over to emotional stimulation and who has more influence over the husband. Just as Satan got Adam through Eve. Satan didn't have to go after Adam. He knew if he could get Eve then he could get Adam through her influence. Being one flesh, as you can see, means a lot more than working together.

We don't need to have someone showing up at our door to fulfill this. We let these heretics in our homes everyday through the TV, computer, books, DVDs and radios. While the cat is away the mice will play, in other words, while our husbands are away they move in for the kill. Get the wife and you'll get the husband. Women are far easier to deceive with a sob story or any other appeal to our emotions.

Lastly, he points out, "they are loaded down with sins and swayed by all kinds of evil desires". That's very interesting. Look at the concentration of teaching coming from Beth Moore and many others. It's a man centered message and not God centered. It's all about "me". They want me focused on me. It's focuses on self esteem, confidence, hurts, abuse, failures, insecurities, etc. It focuses on sins women tend to be loaded down with. Paul doesn't call these things anything other than what what they are....sin. Satan did the same thing to Eve. He told her the forbidden fruit would be good for gaining wisdom which would benefit her. The fruit was attractive, it didn't look "bad". He got Eve to focus on herself and what would be personally beneficial to her. She was aware that God created Adam first and gave him His command. She was aware God placed Adam over her. Satan appealed to her emotions.

We are swayed by all kinds of evil desires because it's mostly emotional. We are constantly looking for something to fulfill us emotionally and this makes us females easy prey. Since we are far more likely to get it wrong then it's downright dangerous to put women in a position of teaching which is a position of authority. Where men would have to submit to her leadership thus an eventual total derailment.

Finally, Genesis 2 gives us the account of the creation of man. Something very important happened here that I think often gets skipped over. Notice that when God created Adam he gave His command to Adam about eating from all the trees except one. Eve hadn't been created yet. God never spoke directly to Eve or gave her any commands. He only spoke to Adam. Once Eve had been created, Adam was the one who taught Eve what had been given by God. It established the order of hierarchy God intended in their relationship and when Satan deceived Eve, he not only questioned and made her doubt and distrust what God said, but also her husband.

God didn't establish His order in our relationships because He's a chauvinist. It was for a very specific reason. Trying to usurp that or change it is direct disobedience and rebellion to God and us females continue to fall for Satan's trick even today. Did Christ ever lock horns with the Father? Though equal with the Father, though He was God in the flesh, He submitted and women are to follow Christ's example. By taking this hierarchy seriously, even though men are not perfect themselves, it's respectful to God and His rule and also protects us...His daughters, from further deception and future heartache.